Comments on: Wonder Why Wednesday, the Nightclub Edition

By: Wonderfriend

Wonderfriend — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 18:40:04 +0000

Thanks for coming by! (Yeah, Gigi!). Be sure to check out today’s WWW. 🙂

Love your site, too – Baby E kills me.

By: Alexandra

Alexandra — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 18:14:55 +0000

Awesome and incredible, I was looking for a meme on wens., other than wordless wens., b/c there are so many of those already, and I do love them.

This is great.

Sent over by GiGi, and she is right, I do like it here….nice to meet you!

By: Wonderfriend

Wonderfriend — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 03:19:59 +0000

In reply to Elle.

Thanks for visiting – and for commenting!

I like your take on this. 😉 I’ll stick with that story!

By: Elle

Elle — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 02:53:10 +0000

I came over from Kludgymom and so glad I did :). He looked you and your friend over because he really didn’t work for the nightclub. He was a producer of a reality TV show entitled “I am so fake”…he he he.

glad to find your blog :). Keep em coming!

By: Wonderfriend

Wonderfriend — Sat, 17 Jul 2010 20:30:58 +0000

In reply to Bethany.

Thanks, Bethany! I just said the other day that I’m going to have to find a way to earn a few dollars, so I can pay a babysitter, so I can have daily blog-reading time. There are too many! I could read all day.

I’m so glad you stopped by. Thanks for the kind comment!

By: Bethany

Bethany — Sat, 17 Jul 2010 18:49:05 +0000

KludgyMom sent me here and now I’m all ticked that there is another blog that I have to subscribe to. You’re good. what I really want is people who suck so I have more free time. Oh well. 🙂

By: KLZ

KLZ — Sat, 17 Jul 2010 10:56:36 +0000

I think he must have known that you did not want your boo reading interrupted.

By: Wonderfriend

Wonderfriend — Wed, 28 Apr 2010 19:24:16 +0000

Hey Don, are you saying I don’t give off the wild, party girl vibe? Ha. Thanks for stopping by and commenting!

By: Don

Don — Wed, 28 Apr 2010 19:13:53 +0000

I agree with Kristen. This ties in nicely with your earlier post on judging other people (and being judged). This guy has limited time to talk to everyone and limited space in his club. He has to immediately categorize everyone into “wild party girl” or not. He wants everyone talking about how “crazy the girls get at his club” and categorizes people accordingly. He expends all his resources on the girls most likely to help him accomplish his goal (the ones who scream “party girl”). It has nothing to do with a tan, and everything to do with the vibe.

At some point, we pick the things that we value and live our life around those things (believes, values, morals, etc). People judge us on those (as you pointed out). Oddly enough, if you did exude “wild party girl” you’d get a whole different set of judgments passed on you when walked through your neighborhood or drop the kids off at school. It just so happens that you are generally surrounded by people with similar enough values that you don’t feel like an outsider for being conservative and sensible.

As we chose to be one thing, we chose not to be a dozen other things.

You are happy with you have chosen to be and in a logical way his judgement should be harmless. (that is, you don’t want to be the type he is looking for).

Still we all want to be noticed, accepted, valued, etc so every now and then who we have chosen to be causes us to feel to out of place and get those painful moments of “why wasn’t I picked” or “how dare you judge me”.

We went to a club in Vegas last week, walked through it, and right back out. We just plain didn’t fit in.

By: Wonderfriend

Wonderfriend — Wed, 28 Apr 2010 13:55:35 +0000

In reply to Kirsten. I love it. I think I'll stick with that story - he was a very respectful club promoter!