Comments on: Courageously Removing Behinds From Sofa

By: Deanna

Deanna — Wed, 12 May 2010 02:23:52 +0000

Love your post and completely appropriate to fall in line with the Beth Moore Bible Study on Esther Monday night-it was about fear!!! The three points from the evening were: 1. We have a choice. 2. We have to face fear. 3. We have to TAKE THE COURAGE. It is there for us we just have to take it!! Do you know what the most frequent or common command in the Bible is??? Do not be afraid!! And you have to realize you don’t have to succeed or do everything. So you don’t have the house completely picked up . . . ask yourself “then what?” You don’t prepare a gourmet dinner for your in-laws . . . ask yourself “then what?” People need to learn to cut themselves some slack . . . right now the utmost important job you and hubby have is raising your children and you are doing an awesome job! Enjoy it with all your heart because your kids are little only once! This is God’s gift to you and he gave you the gift of being able to stay home with them to raise them. As your kids get older it is easier to add some dimension to your life with volunteering, doing fun runs and charity walks with them. You already could do some of those with the kids and make it a family affair! Little things like when you are grocery shopping have your little ones pick out 5 cans of vegetables for the food shelf. Help your kiddo write a letter to a soldier and help him mail it off. You can add lots of meaning to your life with some very simple changes. Do a food drive on your street and get the all the neighborhood kids involved, or whatever organization that is in need . . . didn’t I read somewhere baby formula was needed?? I know a neighbor of yours had a small carnival with some of the neighborhood kids and the money they raised went to the local elementary school for books! Just ideas! Ok . . . got a little crazy but I have passion at least right???? Take care!

By: Rudri Patel

Rudri Patel — Wed, 12 May 2010 01:58:14 +0000

Missy,

Loved the honesty in this post. I think all of couples/families have been there. Floating, Going in circles and often wondering what we are doing. It is good to have a dialogue – I think that is the hardest step. You will get through it, with him.

Glad you plunged into Five for Ten.

By: Amber

Amber — Tue, 11 May 2010 18:11:22 +0000

Your relationship with your husband is very similar to mine with my husband–he and I are PERFECT for each other. For real.

My husband is (unfortunately) gone quite a lot, so when he is home I often find myself getting angry at him for little things. Yes, this does happen more during certain times of the month, but it still doesn’t excuse the behavior. During this last bit, I finally sat down and explained everything to my husband. He sat, listened, and helped me figure out how I could change. It was relieving.

But, the hardest part is acting on those changes. Courage indeed.

By: TheKitchenWitch

TheKitchenWitch — Tue, 11 May 2010 17:38:00 +0000

Popping in from Momalom!

I’m sorry you feel like you’re floundering, but I had to smile when I read your post. I feel like I’m sorta failing all the time, I swear. It’s so discouraging and maddening.

But you and your husband have the courage to talk about what needs to be changed, and just that is a sign that you’ll do just fine.

By: Jen

Jen — Tue, 11 May 2010 16:05:59 +0000

So much of this reflects my own life. My Sweetie may have made the same banana joke, even. We are great at parenting. But everything else–the world within which the parenting happens–is so so difficult. And it’s so easy to get caught up and angry and frustrated and full of self pity. How amazing that you and your husband had the courage to face it. To admit there needs to be change. To go for it. I love this. I love the real struggle. And the real attack. That you will go after what you want and what you know you need and deserve.

By: Shawna

Shawna — Tue, 11 May 2010 16:00:37 +0000

There is courage in contentment. Best of luck finding your way to that place that is less surviving and more living. You’re already halfway there having found each other and acknowledging that you need more out of your lives! Happy Five For Ten!

By: Kelly

Kelly — Tue, 11 May 2010 02:17:16 +0000

I loved reading your post, not just because most of the world can relate, but you brought up some really valid points. I never connected courage to communication, but you are so right. I tend to avoid conflicts at all costs and a lot of times that means keeping things shut inside until I’m about to blow. Courage is the first step in order to even think about communicating, I just never realized it. I think part of the reason we can lack courage so often is that we have that fear of failing. If we talk about it than we risk the other person agreeing that we might be performing less than perfect in certain areas. Thanks for sharing such an important topic.

By: Corinne

Corinne — Tue, 11 May 2010 02:11:55 +0000

Stopping by from Momalom… 🙂
I won’t go into it too much, but I think my husband and I have been in that same exact spot. The discontent, laying down the line, where did we get where we are in this craziness, totally in love but totally lacking in a few ways…
So yeah, this resonates with me. And I’m glad to have seen your take on courage!

By: Suzicate

Suzicate — Tue, 11 May 2010 01:36:28 +0000

Excellent post. And that did take courage to admit failings and set goals to try to live up to. And tnow you just nee to have the courage to step toward those goals.

By: becca

becca — Mon, 10 May 2010 23:12:54 +0000

I’m so glad you found the courage to open up to your husband! And what a relief he was feeling the same way. I love how you stated that you want to live each day, not just survive each day. I know that feeling so well. Each day is a blur. A blur of cleaning the same messes over and over, feeding the same foods over and over, having the same discussions over and over… it becomes exhausting and so frustrating. But to find the courage to make some changes? That takes strength. To do it before you just throw your hands up in disgust? Something I need to do too.

Thanks for this post and great to have found you here!