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By: My Name is Missy, and This is Where I Blog

My Name is Missy, and This is Where I Blog — Mon, 18 Apr 2011 18:42:46 +0000

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By: Wonderfriend

Wonderfriend — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 14:57:03 +0000

Yes! I’m sure I’ve been guilty of that, but I really try to actively listen to people when they talk. Listening is a skill – one at which I don’t excel all the time. I’d like to be known as a listener!

By: ericka @ alabaster cow

ericka @ alabaster cow — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 21:52:58 +0000

i have to say, the happy medium is not hard for me. unless, of course i’m going on about my fabulous then i tend to drone on and on.

i am quite narcissistic. i need help.

By: Emma @ Divorced Before 30

Emma @ Divorced Before 30 — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 00:34:53 +0000

Great post! Most people have a natural inclination to do either one or the other–clam up or self-promote, the happy medium is hard for most people. Something to work towards!

By: Cheryl @ Mommypants

Cheryl @ Mommypants — Sat, 17 Jul 2010 22:49:30 +0000

Doesn’t it make you insane to be talking to someone and you can tell they’re just waiting for you to shut up so they can jump in and talk about themselves? Ugh!

By: Wonderfriend

Wonderfriend — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 04:35:33 +0000

Hey Kyle, it’s a good read and I think you would enjoy it. Gladwell is always entertaining and thought provoking. For me one of the key distinctions between narcissism and stepping up is that phrase “rush to fill the gap.” In other words, there’s value in weighing a situation and stepping up to do a task. The authors of The Dark Side of Charisma highlight those people who jump in to give the appearance of leadership ability, rather than step up because it’s the right thing to do. They “self-nominate” so often that eventually everyone starts to buy what they’re selling, even when they’re not qualified to sell it.

I could talk about it for hours, especially after witnessing the phenomenon in action for years. The whole subject of leadership is fascinating (and frustrating!).

Thanks again for stopping by to read!

By: Kyle

Kyle — Thu, 22 Apr 2010 02:16:44 +0000

There is definitely a fine line between self-confidence and arrogance. I may have to read the Gladwell book because I’m curious how he distinguishes the narcissists from willingness to “step up” when there is a need for leadership (which I’ve always considered to be a good quality).

By: Wonderfriend

Wonderfriend — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 04:28:29 +0000

In reply to Rachel @ MWF Seeking BFF. Glad I found your blog, too! Thanks for reading!

By: Wonderfriend

Wonderfriend — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 04:28:00 +0000

In reply to Don. Thanks for the comment, Don. I appreciate you stopping by and reading!! Have a great trip. :)

By: Wonderfriend

Wonderfriend — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 04:27:31 +0000

In reply to Joy. I haven't read Derailed, but it sounds like I should add it to the list. Thanks for your comment!!