Wonder Why Wednesday: Control Edition

Today I am breaking the rules. I can do that, because this is my blog. Bwahahahaha. I am in charge of everything that happens here. What a rush. Aside from the fact that I don’t understand most of what goes on inside my computer, or much about how to set up and manage my blog, I’m still in control. (She says, making Dr. Evil face)

Obviously, I feel the need for some control. I think that’s fairly common.

Oh, I mentiond the rules. Well, usually Wonder Why Wednesday is very light. While today will not be overly deep or complicated, I am asking you a real question. And hoping for some real answers.

Before we go too far, let’s establish that there is some sense of order in our house. We maintain a level of control over our schedule, discipline, and basic hygiene, among other things. My husband and I are still – mostly – in charge around here.

The inmates are not running the asylum. Yet.

But the reality is that, in life, we are all in control of very little. We take our chances every day. I’m not just talking life and death, although that’s clearly an issue.

I’m talking getting the crazy, Target Lady checker vs. the kind, older woman who makes polite conversation.

Getting a good waiter vs. getting the new kid.

Getting all green lights vs. hitting every red light on your way to an appointment.

You see my point, I’m sure.

I think the fact that so much is wildly out of control is why we crave control over the things that are within our power.

Recently I mentioned some things I’m trying to change. This is going to sound so stupid – I realize that – but although I knew, intellectually, that I control of making those changes, I was feeling very out of control.

I don’t know what happened between then and now, but at some point I was walloped upside the head and realized: HELLO, I can control these things.

I can make the changes I want to make. I have some power here.

I know I already wrote about my issues with food, but again I feel kind of stupid. I look at that post and see a person who was merely whining about the issues rather than taking some control.

So, as I may have mentioned, I have a few posts lined up to talk about what I’m doing to make changes. Changes regarding my weight, my health and fitness level, my spiritual life, my relationships (friendships and marriage), my parenting skills (or lack thereof), and my writing.

Now that I have a renewed sense of control, things are going to look a little different around here (Here being my home, my life. The blog is going to look pretty much the same.).

Tomorrow we’ll talk fitness. I have some fun news and you’re going to have a chance to play along if you want to, or you can just be a voyeur if you’d rather.

For now, though, let’s start with Wonder Why Wednesday.

Why do you think we become complacent, relinquishing control, even when it’s within our grasp?


  1. Somehow I missed the post you referenced here, and I apologize for that. It was a great post. I totally get the eggshell person analogy. I am one of those too.

    I think the answer to your question is because it’s easier to be complacent. It’s a lot more work to challenge ourselves and foster change. I mean, we have a ton of stuff going on in our lives…adding major life overhauls to the mix is a bit daunting.

    Sometimes, though, those overhauls are forced upon us even when we don’t want them to be, and we listen and act and react.

    • I agree, it is easier to be complacent. Or at least it was for me. Now the complacency is starting to eat at me. We’ll see if that motivates me enough to make the changes!!

      I was going to say that I’m glad you’re an eggshell person, too, but that is not coming out the way I want it to! What I want to say is that I’m glad the analogy resonated with you. And no apologies needed – this internet is teeming with posts to read. Some get missed along the way (let’s blame the Google Reader, shall we?). πŸ˜‰

  2. Well hello Wonder Friend!
    Gigi has mentioned you so here I am. I love this topic!
    Why do you think we become complacent, relinquishing control, even when it’s within our grasp?
    Because…it can be easier. I think of when my kid’s are going crazy and I just can’t deal anymore. I check out. I literally check out and just say yes to them when I would normally say no.
    When it comes to weight loss I think the same thing, I know what to do etc. it’s just committing and sticking with it.

    • Thanks so much for stopping by! I relate to checking out. It’s a fight or flight survival thing, I think. It’s nearly impossible to stay engaged 100% of the time. Talk about losing your mind. Aaack.


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